Some coping
strategies
How you cope with the feelings you will be
having both as an accused person, or as the partner/friend/parent/child
of an accused person will be very personal to you as an individual. All
I can offer is some of the strategies I employ to help me,
and hope that you may draw some help from them. Before I continue, it may be that you have
read this site, and decided that I am not best placed to offer advice.
That may be true or not. Whatever the case may be, I offer it anyway,
and had someone been around for me when I needed support, then
maybe I would not find myself in the position I do today. The following
strategies, have worked for me though, and I offer them up
unconditionally. Find a distraction from your thoughts. That
is, find yourself something to do, take up new interests, hobbies etc.
I understand that some people turn to
religion. That is fine. If it works for you, go for it. Do
not dwell on your predicament. By all means, give it serious
consideration, and prepare yourself mentally for the worst. But do not
let it consume your every waking hour. Concentrate on your strengths.
You know what they are, and how best to use them. Stay in contact with your family and
friends. Even if they reject you, persevere. They are the very
lifeblood of your existence at the moment. If it is possible, keep working at whatever job it is
that you do. If that is not possible, try to get yourself gainfully
employed. Accept all the extra work that is offered, even if it is
something that previously you would never have done. Continue to protest your innocence, and
hope that the truth will win over the lies that currently surround you. Seek out others in the same predicament,
compare stories and see just how similar they probably will be. Stand
up and be counted, do not be afraid to air your voice about the
injustices that you are being or have been put through. Tell your story. Write it down if
necessary. Getting it off your chest can be therapeutic. If you really feel that you need it, seek
and take medical advice. Take any pills, tonics or potions that come
your
way from the medical profession. Accept with gratitude the intervention
by mental health specialists, either psychological, or
psychiatric. If preferred, seek private counselling. It can all help. Do whatever you need to do to keep yourself
safe from any other accusations. Avoid places or situations where your
actions or presence could be misinterpreted by those wishing you harm.
If at all possible, try to make sure that you always have someone with
you when out and about. Avoid at all costs any contact with whoever
made the false accusations about you in the first place. One of my favourites. Go to bed. If nothing
else, at least you know that sleep, if it eventually comes will give
you a little respite from the uncertainties of the days ahead. Above all, believe in yourself. Know in
your heart that you are innocent. It doesn't matter what label society
wishes to throw at you. As long as you know the truth, then that is for
you to know, and everyone else to worry about. Finally, try and use your experiences
practically to help others. You may think you have nothing to offer.
Nothing could be further from the truth. You are uniquely placed to
help and be helped by others who find themselves on the receiving end
of these sort of accusations.FOOTNOTE
Expect the feelings that you are
experiencing to never go away. They may diminish in intensity, you will
almost certainly become accustomed to them. Draw on those feeling as a
sort of 'security blanket', but never disregard them. They are much to
important. They will become an integral part of what your experience
has changed you into, from how you used to be. Almost 4 yrs have passed
since the false accusations were made against me. I will never forget
that moment. I cannot change it, even though it has changed me. I have
learned to live with it, and the feelings that it has caused. The
weariness grows a little more tolerable with each passing day. Look
forward to the future, because there is going to be one, whether you
like it or not. And it includes you! If you are able to add anything to this
page about additional ways to cope, or some of the things that have
worked for you and you are happy to share them with others, then why
not E-Mail them for inclusion by clicking on the link below. |
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Get yourself good advice, and stay
strong.
With thanks to:- DsmndRod@aol.com Always!!!!, Remember THAT you Above ALL
Know the Real YOU,And NEVER Let ANY BARRIER come Between The Truth.
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